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Go back in time and try to remember your childhood…. How was it? Did you have a lot of friends? …. Neighbors…. Kids living around your house whom you played with…. Kids at school… Kids who topped in class… Kids who were taller than you… or smarter than you…

Did you ever feel a pressure inside your heart… to be like them…. to be better than them??
Did you ever feel like someone was teasing you…. bullying you…. being mean to you….

Did it ever happen that you wanted to respond to them at that moment…. but you didn’t....
Something stopped you… from inside… like a fear or some kind of hesitation…

And then you carried it inside your heart for a long time… You thought about it…. a few times.. but couldn’t reply back… Because those kids were BIGGER THAN YOU… or BETTER THAN YOU… or just for no reason…. You just couldn’t say what you wanted to say.

Then you grew up… and in your teenage years… the same thing happened…. People around you were doing “COOL” things and you couldn’t cope up… There was something lacking in you… Maybe they had better friends….. boyfriends… girlfriends… and you were all alone…

You kept a lot of things inside your heart… Your feelings… your emotions… You even hid them from your parents and family members at times…

Sometimes you opened up to cousins or close friends but it was very rare… and many times… YOU WERE ALL ALONE…

You grew up and entered office… and now there was pressure to earn a living… PROVE YOURSELF… get a promotion… or a good end of year rating from your boss… Pressure to get ahead of those buddies whom you met in school…

You felt that pressure inside again…. you could not cope up at times… You looked back at what you had achieved so far and then thought…. I could have done better…

Then came family… kids…. and sometimes… maybe… you were all alone…

It just kept on building and building inside of you….

You thought …. I wish I could go back and relive my life… I wish I could live that part again…I wish I had said what I wanted to… I wish I could do it all over again….

PRESSURE…. PRESSURE…. PRESSURE… and you know where all that was building up……… INSIDE YOUR MIND….

You kept living for years and years and then one day…. maybe today…. imagine…. You have a realization….

“I am not going to let any more pressure build up in my mind.
I am going to speak up what I feel inside.
This is my opportunity. I will live only once and I will make the most out of it.”

And then suddenly…. YOU STARTED SPEAKING YOUR MIND OUT….. to your boss…. to your colleagues… to your kids… to your spouse…

You started saying that ….“I DO NOT LIKE THIS” OR ” THIS HURTS ME”.

Imagine you go to a dentist and the dentist does his/her job and you somehow felt uncomfortable. But NOW… you have your magic voice…. so you SPEAK UP…. and tell them that I DID NOT LIKE THIS….

It may seem hard in the beginning but as you practice it….. it becomes easy…. The pressure starts getting released….

And one day…. if you give yourself enough time…. the pressure is all released and gone!!

Wouldn’t you feel better now??

Life is not a pressure cooker or a race. Life is a gift. (Enjoy it!)

Don’t let the pressure build inside you…. SPEAK UP!! Truly…. honestly…. whatever you want to say….

Ease off your MIND….

The most VALUABLE GIFT when you received this life was not that car or that house… but your BODY AND YOUR MIND….!!! VALUE IT…. CHERISH IT….


SPEAK ALL THAT’S INSIDE OF YOU…. NOW IS A GOOD TIME…. If not now… there will never be…

Make peace with your past… with all those buddies whom you are today jealous of…. or don’t like…. SPEAK IT OUT….

Don’t let the thoughts clutter your mind…. Speak up…. The time is RIGHT!!

If you learn to speak up… YOU WILL BE ABLE TO TEACH YOUR KIDS TO SPEAK UP TOO!!!… Who are going through the same phases that you went through…. Don’t let them hide anything from you…

Speak up…. and listen when they speak up!! Get healed and become a healer…. Believe in yourself.

A loaf of bread and Karma!

When a loaf of bread reaches your house, it has actually gone through a lot of processing. From the beginning till the end. Lots of people are involved in making bread available in your house and that includes the flour producer, the baker, the quality inspectors, transporters, retailers and maybe delivery guys and so on and so forth. And yes, In the end you pay money to get that loaf of bread. Money just gets the product from the end point to your hands but before that a lot of things have happened.

If you go to a grocery store with $1000 in your pocket but there is no supply of bread at the store, there is no way you can buy it. So it’s not just the money that is getting u the bread but the karma of all those people involved. In simple terms, if the supply chain breaks somewhere in the middle, you may not get the product that you need.

Every single thing in your house that you have or possess has gone through similar supply chains.

Each day when you wake up, pray to god that whatever karmas are bringing food on my table stay maintained. Whatever karmas are bringing clothes in my closet keep happening and whatever karmas are keeping a roof on top of my head stay intact.

Not just that, small things like medicines, grocery, school supplies, car utilities, curtains, mirrors….. Nothing absolutely nothing will come to your house if the supply chain of karma breaks….

The reason you have something is because someone, somewhere put in the efforts and created it in the first place. Then after that, people were kind enough to supply it to you in exchange for money.

Money is not just buying goods but paying off for the good karmas of people!!

So, next time u see a loaf of bread on your table…. Just think and imagine what all efforts might have taken for that loaf to reach you and how easily you were able to purchase it!!

Be thankful that our society is running on karma….

When people work hard, the society benefits. That’s the law of nature.

If people don’t work or become corrupt, the society suffers!!

Be honest, do good karma and make good things!! You never know whom all are your deeds serving indirectly or directly….

Keep the karma cycle going!! For the benefit of all.

Just one breath away….

As I write this post, I have Krishna bhajans playing in the background. For those who don’t know ….Krishna is a god per Indian mythology. I have always had a fondness for Krishna and his teachings (Bhagawad gita especially)…. But at the same time, I have fondness for all religions and cultures…. I know they all preach one thing….. “To be good”. That’s all.

Lately, I have been wondering how different we are… and you know what… we are all not that different… I mean there are people with different cultural backgrounds, financial backgrounds, races, color, creed and so on but you know…. We all are JUST one breath away from each other….!

The people who are richest in the world…. are richest only until their next breath. If the very next second, their breath goes away… forever… then …would you still call them the richest people on earth?

The greatest wealth that humans have is their breath….their life… not their money or stature or anything else in the world…

Because if you lose your next breath… you will lose everything…. and you won’t even realize it because you will be gone forever….

Be thankful for the next breath you take…. be thankful for being alive…!!

Do not compare yourself to others…. coz they are just one breath away from you… that’s it! Everything else will stay as it is…. We come empty handed and we will leave empty handed…

That’s why they say… the best moments in life are those….. that take your breath away! 🙂

Each time you breathe… Thank that invisible super power…. that gave you this life! …. which we call by various names in various cultures….

I read a quote recently that “Sometimes your hardest times seem to pass very smoothly…. as if some invisible hand is carrying you along …. That invisible hand…. that invisible power is God”….

So…. our every breath should be devoted to that super power…. and also devoted to the wellness of each and every single being on this planet…. whether it be a human being, a plant or an animal….

We all have ONE thing in common and that is LIFE!!! All the other differences are secondary…. they don’t mean anything….nothing at all…

You lose your breath the next minute and …. all the CRITERIAS you had created in your life for your success or wealth or fame or abundance…. are gone in a flash!!

Just one breath away…. just one breath away….

Love… live…smile… be happy…. as you breathe….!! It’s the biggest and greatest wealth you can accumulate in the next moment….!!

To err is human… to forgive is divine and “being human is to err”

Yes, I added that last part… “to be human is to err”…

In my last article I was talking about work and “being human at work”. That made me think, what is being human?? What do we mean by being human or humanity in general.

I think the most important thing to realize as humans is….. that we are not perfect and we make mistakes everyday, each moment of the day.

Take a small example, someone asks you “How are you?”… How many permutations/combinations can you think of in response to that question? You may say…

“I am fine” or “Why are u asking?” Or “ I am ok, just let me be” or “I am doing good, thanks!” Or “ It doesn’t matter how I am, you tell me how are you?”

Can you imagine that one simple question can have thousands of answers depending on our mood. Similarly, every situation in life has thousands of answers/ responses / choices.

We make choices every second, in what we talk, how we behave, how we act/react. But none of the ways is perfect or absolutely right.

What may seem perfect response to you… may seem inappropriate to someone else.

Life gives us choices every second. The main fact is that we have limited time, so we make only 1 choice per second and move on to the next thing. And the fact of the matter is, every choice is imperfect. TO ERR IS HUMAN!!

So, let’s give each other some room to make mistakes, let’s allow each other to make mistakes. Everytime someone says something, let’s accept it as his best mistake he could make in that moment and forgive him if we don’t like it.

We all are doing fine in life!! It’s ok…. live a moment and move on….There were million combinations/ways in which you could have lived your life but we are not going into the past now!!

We are just going to make new mistakes, better mistakes, better choices from NOW ON and more than that ACCEPT the fact that none of our choices are absolutely perfect and it’s ok….

Be human… be forgiving to yourself and to others…

Let things pass by if they are gone… Don’t get too angry at yourself for making mistakes because life is a learning experience and if we don’t err, we don’t learn. That’s why we are not perfect. And please don’t get too angry at children or elderly….

Next time, when your spouse says something or your child or even your boss…. Accept it as an imperfect version of themselves that they are best trying to put forward for u. (An imperfect “being human” thing) and it’s ok!!

Don’t try to change them or Mould them each time… Just accept them!!

This is the first rule to “Being human”…. Be willing to make mistakes and be willing to “Forgive”!!!

Let’s all be human… let’s all be ready to make mistakes and learn and more than that… be willing to accept and forgive!!

Work, money and “being human”!

We all work… well…we all have to work to earn money…. to buy us all the things we need to lead a good life! …. But there is one thing we all forget in the process… Something even more important than earning money…. something even more important than buying things and that is “Being human”. We all are aware of the political scenarios at work and how much we all have to struggle to get to where we want to be. We all have to prove our worth….. win trust…. build connections….and get work done.

Is getting work done the only thing in life?

Is the most successful person the one who has completed the maximum chores in his/her life?

Is the happiest person the one who has reached the top of the success ladder?

As we wade through the political storms at work, we have to appreciate, understand and respect the fact that we all are human. We all have our own challenges and struggles. We all have things to take care of and no one has everything.

So…. as you WORK your way up the success ladder… RESPECT your colleagues who are going through struggles in their life… RESPECT your colleagues who are on their own or don’t have any family members….RESPECT your colleagues who are specially abled…. or pregnant or….have some other kind of dependency besides work.


And the most important aspect is to respect that “OTHERS ARE ALSO HUMAN”…. they also make mistakes… they also have their struggles…. and some may not even realize what they are going through. They may be struggling inside and never be able to show it to others…

When I was 7 months pregnant…. I had stress at work (due to deliverables and colleagues etc etc)….because of which I had bleeding and some complications….

Thankfully everything got resolved and my baby came out healthy and absolutely fine…. I still wish my colleagues were more supportive at that time… I still wish maybe just maybe….. they were more human…. and understood my circumstances…. I just wish…. I wish I had not taken too much stress and just focused on my health…. I wish…. It was a big wake up call for me too … to focus on my child more than my work.

We are human beings first before money churning machines.

When MONEY didn’t exist…. there was the barter system. People exchanged goods for goods…. The same thing can happen now. We all can revert back to the old systems…. ONLY and ONLY IF we have bigger hearts.

We have to understand that at work, everyone is trying their best…. based on their circumstances.

And if there is ANYTHING MORE IMPORTANT than earning money….. IT IS BEING HUMAN. IT IS BEING a KIND PERSON, someone PEOPLE LOOK UP TO AND RESPECT. Someone people acknowledge as a “NICE” person!

When you work and earn money….. You earn the material things…. the richness, glory and fame.

When you work and also are NICE and earn money…. YOU WIN HEARTS!! YOU WIN TRUST and you win an urge to perform better.

It’s important to RE-ITERATE that…

When you work and earn money….. You earn the material things…. the richness, glory and fame.

When you work and also are NICE and earn money…. YOU WIN HEARTS!! YOU WIN TRUST and you win an urge to perform better.

Keep the political storms aside…. and just do me a favor… Just be a nice person….

As Michael Jackson’s song goes…”Heal the world…Make it a better place… for you and for me and for the entire human race!”….

Let’s keep work aside for a minute… and just focus on being HUMAN…. Rest everything will follow… Trust me….

Instead of praying… HELP!

Religion is always a complicated topic. There are thousands of cultures, thousands of traditions and each preaches its own things… I respect all religions and their practices but there is one thing I respect more that religion or prayers and that is KARMA

If 1000 people are sitting in a religious gathering and offering prayers…. Think of the IMPACT they can have if all of those 1000 people went and HELPED the people in need. (Through volunteering, donations or any other means that actually help others)

If I were to compare “someone offering prayers” to “someone feeding a hungry person or giving shelter to a homeless person”, I always feel the latter holds more importance.

Actually DOING something for the other person is better than just THINKING about it….

Adopting a child…feeding the hungry….giving shelter to the homeless… donating books at a library….donating clothes… Keeping your house clean and keeping only what you need… Constantly helping others in one way or the other… Educating an illiterate child… Not wasting food…Not complaining about life.. Not complaining about the past….Being humble…

Aren’t all of these KARMAS better than offering prayers?

Prayers hold their own importance and meaning but the greatest form of prayer is to HELP someone….

If you just look around, you will see so….. many people who need help. There are countless people who need your help and assistance. (COUNTLESS!!!)

Take out time from your busy schedule and instead of just offering prayers… Help those in need.

If you can’t physically help anyone… donate a small amount from your income monthly to an association that helps others….

If you have the ability to help others… please help them.

If you can’t do anything…. then just take care of your body. That is also a form of service you perform for your body and for others. (So they don’t need to serve you)

Water a plant…. sow some seeds…. Call someone and just say you were thinking about them and would be happy to help… Sometimes just offering a word of compassion helps…

And do pray when you can…. But think of karma…. before prayers….

It hurts to see so many people lonely and helpless…. especially young children and elderly who are the edges of life….

Children hold a very important place in my heart…. I always feel they are like pots of clay that you can give any shape to…. However you want to mould them….

Play with children…. they need a lot of play time and that is also a form of service that you can offer…

Listen to the elderly…. Just listen… dont ask… dont question… dont argue…. Just listen….

There is soooo much we all can do…. Imagine the energy that would be generated if 1000 people sitting in a religious gathering ….. all got up and started helping others… even each other….

Do you still think prayers are more important than karma? And I won’t question you if you do. It’s absolutely fine….

Everyone is right in their own way…!

HELP…. It’s such a powerful word… It can create miracles when offered to others…

HELP…. as much as you can… whenever you can….

HELP…. Help yourself and help others….

You will never regret helping someone…. Never ever… because it is the best form of KARMA….!

Chaos and Rebellion

When the mind gets chaotic, with so many thoughts about almost everything in the world, it creates stress and anxiety. You feel as if thoughts are travelling like trains in your mind, with so much noise, so much harshness and so much tumult…. You don’t know how to heal it….except just let it pass through your mind…. and wait for the right time to bring peace….

Mind is an extraordinary organ. It handles so much pressure at so many points in life…. At times… it feels it’s just going to burst apart!

There are thoughts about family members… about the world… about news… about disease… about chaotic situations and so on. You feel lost… you feel stagnated when life just throws you in a corner… with no where to go…. nothing to think….

Everything seems like a puzzle… too difficult to solve…. It feels like everyone is against you… and absolutely no one is with you…

You hear gongs of bells in your mind… You feel like you’re going to lose everything that you’ve gained so far… everything that you worked hard for… everything that you cherished…

And then if you’re lucky…. you pass through that tunnel of bad times and come out of it victorious…

Some people handle that chaos by themselves…. some seek professional help or counseling…. but everyone has to bear it…. at some point in their lives…

There are thoughts like…”Was this destined to happen this way…. or was it my karma?” Why am I suffering so much… what was my fault in all of this? Why me??

And then once time passes…. the healing process begins… the process of acceptance… the process of giving in…. the process of moving on…

Those bell gongs sound again and again and again… remembering that massive explosion of thoughts in your mind… but then you take a deep breath… rest your head against the wall while sitting and just …. AND let it all flow through you….

It is a test of time… a test of your strength…. a test of your character….

These tests may come over and over again in your life and you learn to live with them…

You learn to find some logic amongst the chaos…

You shout… you scream… you get angry…. and then you calm down…. you relax…. you are at ease…

You start believing once again in some super power that is leading this universe…. you learn to accept…

You let it go…. you let it flow… you just learn to LIVE through the STORMS…. And in the end you come out stronger…. more victorious…. You learn to live like a REBEL…

Live responsibly

Often times, a lot of people put things on fate… or destiny…

I gained weight because “My body is like that”…
I like drinking because “It cools my mind”…
The accident happened because “Things went out of my control”…
I am not successful because “I am just unlucky and fate is not on my side”

HOW MANY TIMES…. How many times will we blame things on fate and destiny?

When we have the courage to breathe, to party, to enjoy….. Can we not DEVELOP the courtesy to live responsibly??

What does living responsibly mean? I heard somewhere that RESPONSIBILITY is made of two words – RESPONSE & ABILITY – “The ability to respond”.

Responsibility means:

Owning your body, your relationships, your children, your career, your life and everything else associated with it.

YOU have to control your eating temptations to keep a healthy body.
YOU have to control your interactions with people to develop healthy relationships in your life.
YOU have to control your words to ensure they don’t hurt others.
YOU have to control your driving habits to protect the lives of people.
YOU have to control your desires so that you are not spending extravagantly.
YOU have to manage your friendships so you have good people in your life.

When you came into this world, you were given some power, some authority, some control.

The fact that you have a body that can move, that can interact with people, that can have emotional bonding with people MEANS that you have a lot of RESPONSIBILITY associated with this body and its powers.

If you are not having a good relationship with your family members, take responsibility for it and make changes.
If you are not able to get along with people, take responsibility for it and make changes to your behavior.
If you are having struggle in your career, take responsibility for it and improve your skills.
If you are having problems in your marriage, take responsibility and develop loyalty, trust and strength.
If you are having trouble with your kids, look at what YOU are doing wrong.

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY and see how your life changes….

Take control of your mind…

I read somewhere that, “We owe a lot to this body because it DOES so much for us. We OWE taking care of the body, taking care of its actions and emotions. WE OWE doing exercise on a regular basis so that it stays fit and healthy. WE OWE a LOT to this body”.

TAKE responsibility for your money.

Whether you are filthy rich or extremely poor… Whatever amount of money you have… TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for the things you buy and the things you decide NOT TO BUY. (Don’t crave for them after you have decided not to buy them)

If you have a lot of accidents in your house with kids…. TAKE responsibility and CHILD PROOF your surroundings…

If you have a lot of trouble with your determination, CONTROL your mind or DO meditation to enhance it…


I am not saying that things don’t happen by fate…. Ofcourse if you are walking on the road and an AIRPLANE falls on your head… you can’t do anything about it… But what is the probability of that happening?!

TRY TO CONTROL what you can. Take responsibility. Be responsible.

When a person takes responsibility of his/her life, Life becomes worthwhile…. Your health improves, your relationships improve, your life improves, your children feel more loved and appreciated…

I read somewhere that “TONGUE is an organ that helps you speak and eat. If you are able to control THESE two POWERS and the emotions associated with it, you will feel atleast half of your life in control.

I don’t know who is reading this blog but this I hope it helps change someone’s life in a positive direction….

May god bless everyone!

Accidents CAN be avoided…

Accident…. It is defined as “an unfortunate incident that happens unexpectedly and unintentionally, typically resulting in damage or injury.”

Recently… I heard of an incident where a friend’s husband was wearing his helmet and all safety equipment…. he went to drive his bike on the road and was “UNEXPECTEDLY” hit by a speeding car… He soon died..

When someone talks about the word accident, I want to question the words, “Unexpectedly” and “Unintentionally”…

Another example that I recently saw was when someone’s finger got unexpectedly poked into a kid’s eye… just because the kid was standing close by….




Some ways in which accidents can be avoided are:

By using appropriate security equipment.
By following appropriate security measures.
By avoiding roadblocks or barriers on the way.
By avoiding clutter and unkempt environment.
By following Road and safety signs for the benefit of others including speed limits…
By ACKNOWLEDGING things or circumstances that may lead to accidents and AVOIDING THEM.

By not calling ACCIDENT… an “act of fate” but a REALITY with some irresponsible behavior attached to it…

A lot of countries have many more accidents than some other countries. This is just because they follow/implement or regulate the lives of people and ASK THEM TO LIVE IN ORDER.

UNORDERLY OR CRAZY OR UNSOCIAL behavior leads to accidents.

Even giving birth to children is sometimes called an accident but I call it unplanned behavior.

LIFE IS SO SO SO PRECIOUS THAT IT’s HIGH TIME WE DO ENOUGH RESEARCH ABOUT ACCIDENTS and try to avoid them for the coming generations…

Accidents should not happen. They are not MEANT to happen. THEY MOSTLY happen when people LOSE their minds, are INCONSIDERATE of others or ARE JUST NOT PAYING ATTENTION… That is what should be considered the law….

Safety rules and regulations must be implemented in all places. (In workplaces, in schools, in modes of transport, at EVERY SINGLE PLACE)


It is important to REALIZE… WHO IS AT RISK…. WHAT IS THE RISK? HOW can it be avoided? What better can be done in the coming times….?

There should be knowledge bases of articles that happened in the past… and research should be done on it on an everyday basis…



A LOT OF PAST ACCIDENTS COULD ALSO HAVE BEEN AVOIDED… If people thought a little more….! If people thought safety a little more….